Have you put off talking to your child(ren) about sex because you didn’t know how? Did you start but awkwardly change the topic because you got nervous or uncomfortable?
I get it, it’s not particularly easy to start up a conversation about sex. That’s why we have come up with 3 easy ways to initiate the sex talk guaranteed to get the ball rolling.
The Television, Movies and the Media
This is the most straightforward tool to educate your children with. Have you ever been to the movies as a family to see a movie? Was there a pregnant woman? Or a fast-forwarded sex scene? Or even just a kissing scene? How about an adopted orphan baby like in Meet the Robinsons?
Those are great conversation starters. Get your kids’ ideas of what they think is ‘right’ and how much they know about sex. Ask questions like “Do you think that is realistic? Healthy? Right?”. “What are your thoughts on that scene?” etc. Use this opportunity to correct any wrong notions. These are all great moments to use to educate your child(ren) about sex. Bring it up after the movie and just watch the conversation flow effortlessly.
Ask them what they know. Use natural occurrences such as your pets mating or animal reproduction to explain and reinforce positive ideas about reproduction.
If you see a pregnant woman (or are pregnant yourself), use that to start up a conversation about where babies come from. Ask what they are taught at school, etc. Teach them the basic biology of reproduction in an age-appropriate way. These simple things will go a long way in making the conversation easier for you.
Randomly ask them questions
What do they think love is? Where do babies come from? What is ‘adoption’? “Ever heard of a ‘period’? Getting Children’s comedic and imaginative ideas of sex would give you a laugh, which will ease any tension you might be feeling. This lets you know how much they know and gives you a bearing on how to proceed. It allows you to correct misconceptions and instil family values all at once. Win-Win.
When considering having a sex talk with your child, consider the following questions “what did my parents teach me about sex?”, “how did that prepare me for adult sexual experiences?”, “do I want my kids to have similar experiences?” etc.
The answers gotten would significantly help you to deliver the talk appropriately.