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9 Surprising Ways You’re Encouraging Your Child’s Internet Porn Watching

Parents often complain that this generation is highly sexualised. Well, what did we expect, children are being exposed to sexual content much earlier than before or ever.

 

List 10 trending songs off the top of your head, at least half of the songs you can think of have strong language. The ones that don’t have some form of sexual innuendo or semi-nude video. And that’s just music! Don’t get me started on internet ads, movies, and television.

 

Psychologists tell us that everything we do, from the way we drive to the tone of our voice shape the way our child would act for the rest of their life.

 

Now, you may not be capable of controlling the internet, but there are several roles you may play as parents in encouraging these behaviours. Some of them include:

1. You’re letting them watch sexual content offline

Here’s how this works, they see some sexually charged content say in an advert, magazine or TV show and become curious, so they look it up online.

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Research shows that children under 14 who have intentionally looked at pornography do so more because of exposure to traditional content, such as magazines and most especially movies.

 

So generally, we need to pay attention to the movies we let our children watch, the songs they listen to and the television shows they can view. Parental controls are typically useful in this situation.

2. You undress in front of your child 

As surprising as it may be, changing clothes in front of your child can have significant effects on their sexual habits.

 

While research on the subject is scarce and limited, it is safe to know that between the ages of two and five, children are incredibly curious about the body. They will often ask precise questions.

 

If you don’t honestly or adequately answer these questions, they will look to the internet for answers.

3. Your Child frequently sees you and your spouse having sex

Much like viewing nudity and sex scenes on tv or getting undressed in front of them, when your child often witnesses you and your spouse bumping uglies, they become curious.

 

And again, if you don’t address all their questions and adequately educate them. They would find their answers elsewhere, often online.

4. Your Parenting Style is permissive or neglectful

Parenting styles differ from family to family based on how much you expect from your kids (demandingness) and how much you consider their needs (responsiveness).

 

We know you love your child. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t be on this site. However, whether you are highly responsive to your child’s needs (Permissive) or not (Neglectful), when you do not demand anything from your child, you are negatively affecting them.

 

Research shows that children whose parents raise them permissively or neglectfully do not learn boundaries. They tend to be unhappy and engage in reckless danger-seeking behaviours. They also suffer from low self-esteem – which is a predictive factor of porn usage.

5. Your Ignorance of the tech trends and issues

This is 2018 people! Wake up. This generation is so much more different from ours. More sexually charged. Growing up, we had to look out for pornographic materials actively. But now, our children must actively *not* look for it.

 

Sex is in the media, in music, everywhere! 66% of child porn watchers said they weren’t looking for it, but they accidentally stumbled on to it online.

 

Gone are the days of staying up late for adult TV. We are in the era kicked off with ‘twitter after dark’ and ‘porn channels on social media.’ Your child needn’t leave the social media app to find porn. So let’s not be ignorant as parents.

6. You allow them to use their phones and devices late at night

Let’s logically consider this; what is the benefit of allowing them to use their phones in the dead of night. Is it the countless hours of sleep loss that result in stress? Or the increased chances of stumbling onto adult content, or maybe the opportunity to be pressured by online predators to do things like sending nude images or videos.

7. You don’t know their friends

The benefits of knowing your child’s friends go beyond the peace of mind it gives you when you find out your kids are not negatively influenced or in a “bad gang”.

 

Showing them that you care for them, even in the trivial little things helps build trust. So they can bring concerns to you.

 

If you’re not answering their questions, then someone else is. And that ‘someone’ might as well be pornography.

8. Poor sex Education

As a parent, the most significant way you are currently encouraging your child’s use of internet porn is by incorrectly sexually educating them.

Because children only intentionally seek porn out of curiosity, the goal of sex education is not to avoid the issue. Instead, it is to tackle it directly this is so that your children learn about sex the right way and from you, the most reliable source.

9. You don’t practice what you preach

It is easy to go about clouting rules and to dictate behaviour. Most of us parents are guilty of this, but the truth is children do what you do and not what you say.

boy sitting and looking at a lake
At adolescence, if they cannot see the logic behind the rules you make, then they will consider you a hypocrite, and your opinion wouldn’t matter to them. So if it’s no devices at bedtime, then you all have to live with that rule.

 

It is crucial to note that even though we might not think about it 24/7, our parenting methods and choices significantly affect our children, the way they cope with and prepare for the future.

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